Sex should be fun, not more stressful than fun. Here are six ways you and your partner can improve the quality of your sex life.
1. Reduce stress
Anxiety can prevent you from being happy with your partner. Anyone under stress can experience a decrease in their libido. For example, a 2013 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that women under severe stress had lower levels of sexual desire. If you notice that you or someone you work with is stressed, talk it out and find ways to let off steam. This can include: journaling, meditation, therapy, pleasurable movement like dancing, or productive physical activity like folding laundry. On the other hand, some people may use sex to cope with their stress.
2. Discover yourself sexually
Experts recommend that you do spiritual research, be curious, and explore your sexuality and passions to get to know your body better. Sex research can mean combating an image problem or finding something you like. If you’re comfortable, feel your body feel good by pushing the breast. If you’re having trouble arousing yourself, you can try techniques like physical therapy or try new techniques for self-pleasure. As you become more comfortable and satisfied, it can be easier to express your sexual desires to your partner.
3. Try something new
If you’ve been with your partner for a long time, it’s easy to think you know everything about their sexual preferences. Instead, ask them questions like the best sex they’ve ever had, the moment they feel like they didn’t fulfill it, or what they’ve always wanted to do. Trying new positions, fantasies, or toys can improve your sex life. Some experts recommend using sites that define your sexual preferences such as Mojo Upgrade and comparing the results with your partner. Trying new things outside the room can also spark interest inside the room. Try a new and fun exercise together, like dancing or going for a walk, to get the endorphins flowing and your blood pumping.
4. Start “foreplay” before you get into the room
Foreplay can be more than physical touch or sexual behavior. The road to great sex starts long before you enter the bedroom. Creating a safe place for your partner and treating them with kindness, love and respect is the beginning of a deep and meaningful connection during sex.
5. Communicate
Whether you want to try something new or change your sex life, everything requires open and honest communication. When discussing sex with your partner, experts recommend keeping curiosity, compassion, and vulnerability at the forefront. Make sure your partner feels comfortable and non-judgmental about sharing both their sexual needs and limits.
6. Work to balance your passions
Sexuality patterns vary from person to person, making it difficult for couples to strike the right balance. Experts recommend that you schedule time for sex and prioritize your sex routine. This may mean that one person has sex sometimes or less often than he would like, but it is important to consider the needs of the other person. It is important to note that consent is always required to engage in sex. If you don’t want to have sex, don’t have it. But, don’t force your partner to have sex unless they are comfortable with it.